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*** Article: "The Unconscious Hello," or a Secret Technique for Gaining Instant Rapport! - By Connie Brannan ***
--------*** Article: "The Unconscious Hello," or a Secret Technique for Gaining Instant Rapport! - By Connie Brannan ***
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Today's topic is unconscious communication. We all know about language. Words. TALKING. It's part of how we "get our message across" when we're communicating with someone. But it's a very, very small part. There is so much more going on, information being sent, received, exchanged between minds on an unconscious level. Today I'll present you with a quick method for enhancing unconscious communication, called "The Unconscious Hello." It's a powerful tool to build instant rapport and connection and good feelings with another person, both in you and in them. So easily! And that could be useful for making friends and influencing people, could it not?
First, you may ask: What IS the conscious mind? The unconscious mind? Picture a large, very dark room, like a warehouse. You have a flashlight in your hand which you turn on, and it creates a narrow beam and a small circle of light on the far wall. Everything else remains pitch dark. That bit of light is your conscious mind. It's what you are aware of, what you can see now at this moment, and focus on. Everything else in the room is dark and unknown, that's how much information your unconscious mind is processing at that moment.
Your conscious mind is the critical part of your mind, your thinking mind. It's your aware and awake mind, analytical, logical, and sequential. It has a very limited focus. It's deliberate. It directs outcomes. It can only handle 7 +/-2 bits of information at a time before it gets overwhelmed and goes "heeeelllp me!"
Your unconscious mind (or subconscious, as it's also called) is unlimited, expansive. It's active while sleeping and dreaming. It involves feeling, and intuition, and imagination. It's responsible for involuntary movements and keeping your body alive, like your heart beating, your breathing, blood circulation, your immune system, healing, your growth, and so much more! It takes in billions of pieces of information at any given moment. Science estimates that it houses about 90% of your brain power.
Your unconscious mind, during a communication, picks up so much more information than you can consciously perceive. And that's a large part of how we understand each other. Some of those unconscious communications include "body language," hand gestures, body gestures such as shrugging, foot tapping, facial expressions such as a smile or frown, tone of voice, movement of the eyes, level of eye dilation and changes, tilt of the head, lift of an eyebrow, speed of speech, breathing patterns, volume of speech... As you can see, there's a lot more than just words going on in the communication. Take a simple utterance such as "I believe you." Depending on all the unconscious variables, it could mean anything from "I believe you" to "liar."
In the "unconscious hello," here's what happens. When you first meet or notice another human being for the first time, whether it's face to face or across a crowded room, you unconsciously and automatically communicate and acknowledge that noticing. Something happens, something is communicated. It may be a smile or a nod. It may be a word or two. It may be a wave, or up close, a handshake. Your unconscious picks up every nuance, every drop of meaning of which your conscious mind may be blithely unaware. You just know, "Hey, I LIKE this person." "She looks nice." "I wonder what his problem is." And so on. You have garnered meaning from the communication which filters into your consciousness.
By consciously acting on this "unconscious hello" communication, you can direct the outcome, the meaning of your communication, the feeling the other person gets from you in a positive way for yourself. Good feelings, friendly feelings, warmth and rapport. It's a two way street, you feel it, too. And it's so simple to do. Here's how!
In that moment of first noticing another person, you observe how they notice YOU first, and then you feed it back to them. If they nod and smile, you nod and smile in precisely the same way. If they say "hello," you say "hello" in precisely the same tone of voice and volume. If they tilt their head while speaking, you tilt your head to the same angle. You match whatever it is that they present to you. THEN, on an unconscious level, they feel a positive connection with you. "This person really understands me." "This person seems like MY kind of people." "I like this person." "You are like me." The implications for the dating world, or the sales world, or any interpersonal setting are powerful! You're WAYYY more likely to close the deal or make the sale or get the girl's phone number if she feels this rapport with you. Or, as a friend of mine likes to apply this, a free cup of coffee from the Starbuck's barista! Magically, you also feel the connection, as well.
Here's another tip. If you can observe the person saying hello to someone else first, take those noticings of voice and face and body and etc. and feed them upon greeting to the person even before they acknowledge you. Try it! Discover for yourself the power of the "unconscious hello!" to generate positive feelings of connection. And that's what life is all about, is it not?
*** Brief News of the World ***
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* Conn. Mayor Donates Kidney to Facebook Friend *
Politicians long ago discovered the uses of Facebook. East Haven Mayor April Capone Almon found something else there: a constituent who needed her kidney.
Capone Almon, 35, had more than 1,600 "friends" on Facebook last year when she saw one of them, Carlos Sanchez, post a status update saying his friends and relatives had all been tested and couldn't donate a kidney.
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* NY Girl Helps Choking Friend, Credits 'SpongeBob' *
When her best friend turned purple, Miriam Starobin's thoughts turned to yellow -- cartoon hero SpongeBob SquarePants.
The denizen of fictional undersea Bikini Bottom was being credited Friday with inspiring a lifesaving rescue during music class at a seaside school earlier this week.Go here for complete news story.
* PIMCO's Gross to Auction Rare Stamps for Charity *
PIMCO's Bill Gross, manager of the world's largest mutual fund, plans to auction rare European stamps from his collection to raise more than $1 million to benefit Doctors Without Borders.
The auction will feature about 200 stamps of Western Europe, including early stamps from France, some German colonies and German government offices in China. One rare vermilion French stamp may be worth $75,000 or more, Gross told Reuters.
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Friday, May 7, 2010
Self Acceptance
Do you like yourself? It saddens me that some people are probably going to answer no to that question. Even if you answered yes, are there times when you think less of yourself than others?
Maybe sometimes you tell yourself you're not good enough, haven't achieved enough, that no-one loves you... and it's all your fault. Well, if you work through the exercise in this video enough times, your answer will be a 100% sincere, "Yes, I love myself, utterly and completely."
Whatever you don't like about yourself, you probably have lots of reasons to justify it. Say you feel you are inadequate, maybe you are at work one day and your boss says he wants you to take on a new project... but you know you don't have the skills or experience to achieve it... you draw the conclusion that you are inadequate. Then the next day you meet someone you like in a bar... but that person is SO awesome, you figure they'd never be interested in you... so again, you draw the conclusion that you are inadequate.
It would make sense... everywhere in life you see evidence to support the idea that you are inadequate... so that is the way you feel about yourself.
Well here's what I hope you'll realise after working through this video. The FEELING comes first... and then it alters the way you look at the world. If you want to know more about this idea, look for my article "The Key to Self-Acceptance", that will explain the theory a bit more.
Right now, I'll try and demonstrate this idea, by showing you where that feeling comes from.
The Science of Tapping
The biggest thing that puts people off Tapping is that they see it as a little bit New Age. It's funny to me, as someone who studied science at Cambridge University, I find it perfectly scientific. The formula is precise, and the results are repeatable and reliable.
These people tend to have limiting beliefs like
"I need to see a scientific paper on it before I'll try it",
or "It can't be that easy to sort out my problems"
or "It looks strange, people will think I'm odd".
The truth is simple, there is a basic physical process in your body, that allows you to let go of negative emotions. Tapping is a reliable way to trigger this process. There are many ways to trigger this same process - Psychotherapy, NLP, Hypnotherapy, Meditation, Kinesiology, Reiki, Christian Healing.
Each technique triggers the process in a different way and thus takes more or less time to release the same emotions, depending on how efficient that particular technique is. Tapping is the fastest I have found, by FAR. So the question becomes, how long do you want it to take. Personally, I'm all for getting rid of bad feelings with as little fuss as possible, and getting on with my life.
Some of the principles behind Tapping are also found in Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. They call the nerve channels Meridians, and the energy that flows through them, Chi. It doesn't matter what you call it, it's just a way of describing a particular aspect of the human body.
Did you know that acupuncturists train for a minimum of three years? It's very rigorous training and it's a high standard of qualification. Chinese Medicine dates back far longer than Western Medicine, and it tends to look at the body as a whole person, instead of as a machine with different component parts.
The Meridians are a real phenomenon of the body. Some people can sense Acupuncture points and find them just by touch, but they also have a measurably different magnetic resonance to other parts of the skin. They also have a higher conductivity.
This pen is a pretty cool gadget. It's an electro-acupuncture pen, I don't use it for treatment as I tend to find that Tapping is more powerful than Acupuncture. But it's useful for demonstrating that there is actually special about the Tapping points.
The Beeping is to help you find the right point to treat. See how it changes as I run it over my finger. It's beeping higher because there is a lower resistance at the Tapping point on my finger. You can use it to find all the Tapping points this way...
If you Tap, it will work for you. Negative emotions will drop away and you will find yourself happier and more able to do whatever it is you want in life.
If you don't Tap, it won't work. So in that sense, I guess you do have to believe it in for it to work.
If you want to understand more about how Tapping works, the best thing to do is to read what Gary Craig, the original inventor of Emotional Freedom Technique has to say about it. You can get his e-book free from his website, www.emofree.com.
In the meantime, consider that you probably don't know how the Internal Combustion Engine works, but you still turn the key of your car to start it. NO-ONE knows how electricity really works, but you still switch the light on and off.
Seriously, NO-ONE really understands electricity. If you ask someone who *thinks* they understand, ask them the right questions and they will quickly run out of answers. But we still know how to build generators, and batteries, and computers.
In the same way no-one really understands the subtle energies of the body. But we still know how to work them to improve our lives.
That's all for now, Keep Tapping.
Sebastian, Boston
The Key to Self-Acceptance
Life is a lot easier when you aren't beating yourself up all the time. If you like yourself, trust yourself, and have confidence in yourself, and then others will like you, trust you, and have confidence in you too.
Most people's feelings towards themselves vary throughout the day. We all make mistakes, and we all let ourselves down from time to time. But some people are harsher on themselves than others. Some people hate themselves even when there doesn't seem to be a good reason on a particular day. Did you ever wonder why?
We often look at the people around us in our lives and compare ourselves to them. Some of them earn more money, or have a more attractive partner or are more proud of their children. You might think that we develop negative feeling towards ourselves as a result of these judgments. This is true, to a certain extent.
Consider for a moment though, that sometimes the feeling comes first. What if we already had the feeling, and it guided our thoughts? Maybe the feeling comes almost out of nowhere, and we backwards rationalize that feeling by literally making up reasons to fit it.
If that were the case, no matter how much we try to think differently, the feeling will still be there, forcing our thoughts into a particular corner. That would make it very slow or almost impossible to change. If you have persistent negative feelings about yourself, this might be your experience.
The key is to understand where the feeling really comes from.
The truth is we simply learned how to feel that way about ourselves one day, from one time, one event - and it got stuck in our system. We had an intense emotional experience, where other people, or the situation, or just our own thoughts at the time, led us to feel a certain way. So we associated that feeling with a part of us, and began to identify with it.
If you think about the strongest negative feeling that you have day-to-day about yourself, you might remember a time when you didn't feel that way. You might be able to pin down the day when you first starting feeling that feeling towards yourself. Next time when you feel that feeling, and you rationalize it with reasons out of the present moment, it should be easier to see that actually, you just learned to feel that way as a result of one event that could be decades in the past.
Knowing about the memory is one thing, but often that isn't enough to allow you to grow beyond it. Tapping is one way to successfully let go of past memories and integrate the experiences into your rational mind.
The Tapping Road Map
The Road Map shows you where you are, and what you might tap next. All the goals on the road map are achievable with Tapping as a tool.
The milestones are usually tackled starting from the bottom up, but they are really in no particular order. There is also a great deal of overlap - they are all interconnected.
Tired and Hungry
Ever feel tired or hungry even though you just ate and had plenty of sleep? Let me tell you about a little trick your body sometimes plays on you - let me introduce you to FakeTired and FakeHungry.
Recently I attended a weekend of lectures in London, something I'd been looking forward to for a while. I remembered finding it hard to concentrate in lectures at Cambridge, usually due to being tired or hungover or confused by the subject, so I made sure to get an early night the night before, and read up on the subject as much as I could.
I had a great night's sleep and a light breakfast, and bounced across London feeling great, early for the first session. It was odd then, that about ten minutes into the lecture, I started to fall asleep. My head started to feel cloudy and confused, and I experienced an overwhelming feeling of tiredness behind my eyes.
Instantly I started doubting that I'd slept well that night. I started taking sips of water to wake me up, and popped to the toilet for fresh air and to slap myself in the face. Having left the seminar room and run down the stairs, I felt wide awake. But two minutes after sitting down again I instantly felt tired.
This was odd... and it made me start to think. Having done a lot of Tapping, I tend to try and apply it to everything. So I started Tapping the tiredness! It would have been odd to tap away in the seminar room, so I did it in my head - this tends to work just as well, as long as you clearly imagine saying the words, and precisely visualise Tapping the right points.
I stopped feeling tired, and woke up to the point where I could easily pay attention to the lecture. I tapped some more in the break and a bit more that evening before I went out for a friend's birthday. Despite drinking alcohol and getting to bed later than I had intended, the next day during the lectures I was wide awake and thinking clearly.
That was the first time I really noticed FakeTired - Tiredness You Can Tap (TM). Before I explain what's going on, I'll tell you about FakeHungry.
This time it was me giving the lecture, during one of my weekend seminars. We do a lot of Tapping during these weekends, and don't shy away from intense stuff. This often brings up some bad feelings for people, so I frequently ask "how does everyone feel now? does anyone feel less than great?". Sometimes there are cloudy or foggy feelings, but this time a guy said he felt a bit hungry. It was an hour or so before lunch, and maybe he hadn't eaten that much for breakfast.
A few other people said they felt hungry too... and I laughed along with everyone else when I suggested Tapping it. But the humour turned to curiosity and intrigue when they stopped feeling hungry. The guy who had said he felt hungry remarked that he still didn't feel hungry when we left for lunch, and after lunch he told me he didn't eat nearly as much as he usually did because he didn't have so much of an appetite.
What's going on?
Tiredness and Hunger (and probably Needing to Pee and all sorts of other body signals) are interpreted by the body as a negative feeling. They are very useful negative feelings as if we don't listen to them we pass out or starve (or burst!).
Sometimes though, we associate, say, tiredness, with say, sitting in a lecture theatre. This particularly happens when we spend three years at University sitting in lecture theatres tired, hungover, bored, and confused. So as soon as I entered the seminar room EIGHT years later, my well-meaning sub-conscious mind said "aha, a lecture theatre, I know what to do here... time to get some kip!", and set about replaying all the genuine tired feelings it had learned to associate with lecture theatres all those years ago.
Similarly, who knows what our minds associate with being hungry, it could be as simple as "I don't have an empty plate in front of me". We can certainly associate it with sitting in a seminar room. Our minds are wonderfully powerful learning machines, and all it takes is one time when you were really hungry and sat in a chair, to associate sitting down with hunger.
When that association is triggered we feel FakeHungry or FakeTired, and the system is designed so that you can't tell the difference between that and the real thing.
Even more confusingly, one way to banish FakeHungry is to eat, and one way to banish FakeTired is to sleep. When we eat, our system gets flooded with the feelings generated by digesting food, and these stronger masks the FakeHungry. It could even be that FakeHungry is always there, but we only feel it when the first stages of digestion are passed. Note that this happens way before we start feeling RealHungry.
Sleeping switches off emotions that have been switched on due to associations. This is how powernaps work. It's less about a physical process of rest, and more about switching off the emotional processes that are going on. It doesn't take long to switch them off when we relax and close our eyes, but it also doesn't take long to switch them on when we go back to what we were doing.
Because it is generated by the survival mechanism, FakeTired is fear-based. The creates a beautiful irony - have you ever felt so tired you couldn't sleep? That's because the strong fear-based FakeTired feelings are also keeping you awake to deal with possible threats.
Another way to tell the difference between FakeTired and RealTired, or FakeHungry and RealHungry, is to see if you can feel them at will. See if you can focus and make yourself feel more tired or more hungry right now, just by thinking of times when you felt very very tired or hungry.
As I find myself saying so often these days - you might want to tap that.
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